practical and meaningful

Regroup and rethink

This year is off and running and I find myself holding on with all my might to navigate the twists and turns that life has provided.  2013 will be a time to regroup and rethink....everything.

Already leaning towards creating a more simple life at the end of 2012 - I welcome the opportunity to regroup and rethink everything we do, have, need, use, store, and create. I want our life to make sense. I want our stuff to be useful. I want to discard what we no longer need or use. I want to create space to be a family together. I want to be free to travel and find adventures.

                                       I want to live our life, not just keep it going.

 

friendship & social media

The rules have changed.

When I was growing up, all my friends lived within walking distance and we were able to interact organically.  We went to the local school and our parents all knew each other. We did not set up play dates. We did not communicate on instagram or via text. The world was less complicated and yet, more connected.

These days we send our kids to Charter schools and Private schools - which means the kids come from all different parts of the city in search of a great education.  Academically, these schools are a godsend, but Socially,  they are a challenge. Creating connections outside of school is difficult. People are busy and parents are busy. Trying to connect takes effort and persistence.

We have not quite cracked the code for making and keeping plans with friends. There is a lot of coordination and  a lot of driving involved. It is not clear whether the kids should make the plans and coordinate with the parents - or vice versa. We have had mixed success with both.

These days my daughter will have a playdate via facetime (both girls are in their own room talking and interacting as if they were together) which is very practical and somewhat meaningful. 

Moving forward, I hope to figure out ways to nuture the friendships,  not get swallowed up  or sidetracked by social media , and find ways to create authentic connection.

good advice from a 90 year old woman

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short – enjoy it..

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.

9. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

10. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

11. It's OK to let your children see you cry.



12. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

13. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it...

14 Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

15. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

16. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

17. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

18. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

19. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

20. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

21. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

22. The most important sex organ is the brain.

23. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

24. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

25. Always choose life.

26. Forgive but don’t forget.

27. What other people think of you is none of your business.

28. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

29. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

30. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does..

31. Believe in miracles.

32. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

33. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

34. Your children get only one childhood.

35. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

36. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

37. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

38. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need.

39. The best is yet to come...

40. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

41. Yield.

42. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

get out of your own way and show up for someone else

When motivation for your own path dims, take time away from your life and show up for someone else. Support them. Meet them. Encourage them. Take care of them. Spend time with them. Listen to them.

Do it to do it and expect nothing in return.  Chances are, it will fuel you back into action - and you will be more on track then if you stayed stuck in your head unmotivated.