practical and meaningful

practice

When you practice anything, you get better at it.

Put in the time to be a better cook, a better friend, a better lover, a better person, a better writer, a better parent, a better boss, a better communicator, a better example. Practice, it is personal.

room to breathe

Room to breathe, allows you room to breathe.

middle aged...how did that happen?

I was basically a kid (25 years old) when I met my husband. I was living in  a loft in downtown los angeles - pushing my steel bathtub down the hall to the community bathroom, traveling the world taking photos, and making plans for how I wanted my life to play out. I spent days in the dark room, hours gardening on the roof, and money on things such as sunday night dinner parties on the roof.

Almost twenty years has passed and I am in awe of how life has played out and how fast the time has flown. We were laughing the other day because I suddenly realized I am no longer a kid and that we are middle aged....how did that happen?  We have built houses and responsibility and college funds and retirement funds, we own businesses, our daughter is a tween and i still feel exactly the same in my heart as I did when I was 25.  I feel the years on my body and I mark the years in my body of work, my heart carries the weight of life, but my spirit still feels 25.

 

an open letter to my tween daughter

Since you were little,  you have had a strong sense of self. You knew who you were. I love this about you. You are kind, open, loving, and talented.
I love to hear you sing. From pink piggy tails to charlie brown kite song to Adele -  hearing you sing is one of my greatest joys. You have a great ear and you feel the music. Each song fills me with happiness.
I know sometimes you tire of me photographing your every move but I am a photojournalist and using my camera is one way I communicate.  Documenting you has been a pleasure. Your spirit eeks thru every photo, your eyes dance. Capturing your spirit reinforces my belief in life force. I will always be taking pictures of you and your friends - so do not protest. I promise I will share them with you and you can post them on instagram.
It warms my heart when you tell your friends I am a great cook. Thanks for eating my food and for feeding my soul.
I am sorry that work takes up so much of my time. As an entrepreneur I often have to give more time than a regular job. But it also means I have more control of the overall life I lead. When you were young, I built my company and raised you side by side. I'd work all day until I picked you up from school - then from 3-8 PM I was your Mom. After I put you to bed, I'd often work til midnight finishing up my work. It was not always easy, but I would not trade it for anything. Getting to be with you every day and pick you up at the bus stop, doing homework, making dinner. If I had a regular job, those tasks would have been parceled off to a babysitter.
I admire your grit. You also have so much grace. Ease with your body, spirit and self. I love watching this in school, on stage, when you dance, when you sing.  Your grace calms and inspires me.
I admire your self control. You have always had a good sense of healthy food and make great choices every day. You also understand your need for sleep and take responsibility for your healthy sleep habits. I will never forget when Stasi's Dad told me that in the middle of a movie at a sleepover, you got up and and said you were tired and went to bed. Always take care of yourself. Take sleep when you need it. Feed yourself. Keep your basic needs in check and there is no limit to what you will achieve in this lifetime.
I am so proud of the fact that you share easily. You love your stuff and have no problem giving it to someone else who may want it. This will help you tremedously in life. Sharing is a hard lesson and you already act with such grace in your sharing. You will make a great partner and a great parent because you know how to share.
Be BRAVE. I love that ever since you were little, you are willing to go outside your comfort zone and do things, In trapeze you were at the front of the line, wanting to go first. You encourage others to be brave. When a fellow trapezer (a 20 something woman)  was unsure, you imparted your experience and wisdom - relaying to her that she could climb the ladder and make the leap. I hope that you will continue to try new things and be first in line always.
I know you will travel far and wide and that your instinct and intuition will keep you safe and sound. I worry about the world, but I know. I know that with Daddy and me as your parents,  you will travel- so I will be brave when you do and I ask that you do whatever you can to be safe and sound.
Be a good friend. Try not to gossip about anyone. Be a good friend to boys. Know that they are experiencing the same blast of hormones (x100) and that they can be sensitive and need a friend too.
Keep your self in tact and do not let anyone violate your self or your body in any way that you are umcomfortable with. If you are unsure, do not act.
PROMISE ME, you will not do anything you don't want just because other are doing it. Promise me that you will not compromise what you stand for or who you are. Not for a boy, a friend, a teacher, a stranger, or for us.
We love who you are .

Enjoy this time in your life. I am so very proud of you. I love being your Mom and I am so excited to watch you continue to evolve.  You are spectacular and I love you.

inflow and outflow

Inviting and embracing inflow and outflow is the key to a life lived.

Money. Stuff. Friendships. Work. Experiences. Love.

Do not hold too tight to one way, one idea, or one path.
Do not be unwilling to grow, trust, wait, or expand.

Allow life to live within you.

Title IX, 40 years later

Watching the Olympics, I am in AWE of the USA women's teams. Gold Medals in Beach Volleyball, Basketball, Water Polo, Soccer...not to mention the individual sports such as Gymnastics, Swimming, & Track and Field.  The Women are amazing and impressive. Back in 1972 Title 9 was created to ensure equal playing time and attention for both genders. It embraced women's sports and the positive result all these years later... is lots of GOLD medals at the 2012 London Olympic Games! 

I love watching the trust between Misty May and Kerri Walsh. I applaud Jordyn Wieber for displaying such stellar sportsmanship in the gymnastics forum and showing up and supporting her teammates. In the interviews with the Soccer team,  Hope Solo and Carli Lloyd were quick to point out that while they are getting a lot of attention for their offense and defense, the reason their team was so solid was due to the captain of the team Christie Rampone, who has been there for four olympics.  Her leadership and experience anchored the team and helped them to be successful.  I love the spirit of women's teams. I love the stellar athleticism. I love the big crowds who care about it.   I am proud to have benefited from Title IX when I was growing up and playing sports and I love watching all those women win medals!  Well done!

happy 12th birthday to my girl!

Fun in the LIMO with aunty Erika!

half sticks of butter...genius